Honor Your Husband

I recently became aware of something I was doing, that was causing dishonor to my husband. I was involved in an activity (though not bad, and with Jason's permission) caused someone else to look poorly at Jason. At first I didn't recognize it... maybe because what I was doing was a good thing or maybe just because I enjoyed the activity. At any rate, for a few weeks my involvement gave the impression to someone else that Jason was not the spiritual leader of our family. Maybe even that he was slacking off as a father. Both of which are untrue.

My first instinct was just to ignore the opinion of this other person. After all, I know the truth, and anyone who knows Jason, knows the truth. I even joked about it some. Yea, probably not my best wife moment ever... sadly, not my worst. However, God placed a couple of verses on my heart... neither new to me, but they were coming to mind more and more frequently.

Proverbs 31:12 (NKJV) She does him good and not evil all the days of her life.

Ephesians 5:33 (NKJV) Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

As I began meditating on these more and more, I began asking God, "How do these apply to this situation?" I try to do Jason good and not evil, and I try to respect him. I didn't believe that my actions were applicable to either of these verses. Now true enough, my actions alone were not causing evil or disrespect. However, my actions were giving the appearance to someone else that my husband was not doing his job as husband and father. Because it was my actions that gave this appearance... even if only to a few people ... I was causing dishonor to him.

I have apologized to Jason, and I told Jason that I would no longer be involved in this activity. He did tell me I did not have to quit, because he knew I enjoyed it. But I knew that being involved with anything that brought dishonor to my husband... even if in appearance only ... would no longer be an activity I could enjoy. I think also, I have gained just a little more of his respect by honoring him above all else.

Is there anything you are doing that is dishonoring your husband? Either out right or in appearance? If you are unsure, ask God to show you. Ask your husband, and then listen without becoming defensive. If there is, turn from it, and honor your husband. God will bless you and your marriage for it.